If something is not right in your relationship, you will likely feel confused, dissatisfied and wanting to solve the problem but not really knowing how. Even if you dream about the freedom that comes with being single, you’ll also see the barriers that are in place from that becoming a reality, such as the loss of financial stability or needing to share custody of your children.
If you are unhappy in your marriage, you should not rush to file for divorce immediately. Instead, try to consider the underlying problem and what types of actions will potentially resolve the issues in your relationship. The following are some steps for deciding whether divorce is the right option for you.
Find out whether there is a problem for both of you
Communication is key when it comes to relationships. If you are feeling unhappy, it’s likely that your spouse is too, and there may be a way that you can work through it together.
Don’t force a decision if you’re confused
Unless you’re completely adamant that you want to file for a divorce, you should embrace your confusion for a while. Don’t be in a rush to come to a decision; instead, try to get to know yourself better and what you feel is missing from your relationship. Try to open up to your spouse and avoid blaming everything on them.
Observe your feelings toward your spouse
Ask yourself how you feel toward your spouse; do you feel resentment, indifference, a lack of lust or even hatred? Relationships are always evolving, but if you feel hatred or anger that won’t go away, it may be time to move on.
Make sure you’ve tried everything
Consider a trial separation and couples’ therapy before committing to divorce. Many couples manage to rekindle their love after huge difficulties.
If you are certain that you want to go through a divorce, take action to fully understand your legal rights.